Entries Tagged as 'Love and Relationships'

9.12.2018

Are you willing to let yourself break?


Are you willing to let yourself break to become? Here is a link to a video on the topic.

Yesterday I was asked to reflect on the question “How has your work evolved over the years?”

As I reflected, what immediately arose is the evolution comes from the depths I have been willing to go into my own being.  To discover who I am beyond this physical body.  To remember the deep truth of who I am and truth about this life.

Through the years I have traveled into the hard, dark spaces, the trauma, the mind control programming, the pain, the discomfort, the heart break, abandonment, betrayal… And it has been so much more about the truth of who I am.

With the question, I reflected back to when I was taken into a really hard space…Last week, 2016, 2013, no, it was 2010, um no 2003… It has actually been my life’s journey, the evolution of my soul to have been in dark spaces, hard times and come through trauma alive. 

From the start, I was being initiated and prepared to hold my hand out and be with another wherever they are in their hard space and guide the into remembering the truth of who they are.

I’ve danced with the dark, explored the light, and found balance in between.  I don’t talk much about the pieces of my past because the past no longer exists unless I draw it forth.  It was what I agreed upon before entering this body. 

What matters most and my message to you is I’ve allowed myself to break and recreate from my own design.  And I come out better, stronger and more me.  Every single time.  And you can do the same.

I’ve released faulty structures and mind fuck programs that kept me from remembering the divine fucking miracle I am (we all are), the power I have within (no one can take away), the strength I have, the dream this life is, and my co-creative ability to design my experience.

For too long I looked outside myself to feel whole and worthy.  I racked up things (money, home, car, relationship, career) to prove my value.

That is where I see the false light and secret teachings are faulty – the ever elusive carrot just out of reach, running on a hamster wheel, never quite getting to the spaces promised upon, ‘if you do this, then this will happen, and I have the golden ticket for you’ bullshit.

It is only because the way it has been taught.  The carrot is possible. Living off the hamster wheel is available.  All the spaces you wish to feel and be are possible.  Just not how its been taught.

Spiritual paradigms, false light teachings are collapsing.  It is its own level of mindfuckery.

Everything is within but we have been taught the love, money, health, down the road goals once attained will bring the satisfaction and enlightenment you’ve been trained to seek.  Oh! and the guru is the one who has the codes for you that you can only attain from them.  Fuck that.

I am a healer, teacher, guide, alchemist, psychic, medium – whatever label you choose.  What I do is to guide YOU to see what is within YOU.  I’ve traveled the path myself – from inside, outside and around myself.  Those that promise that have something they can give you – false light. 

As a forecaster of energy and consciousness, I see all this who-ha crumbling. 

When it all crumbled for me in 2003 I thought I had royally fucked up my life. I was 33 years old (magic, master number) and it was one point in my life I consciously and reluctantly allowed myself to break and fiercely choose for myself.

Looking back now, it’s like that point was the axis and my entire life surrounded it.  Through the following years it has been a continual discovery and uncovering.

Maybe it is just how I’m wired but, I’d rather dive in, rip the band-aid off and deal rather than take the path of a slow, painful suffering I see so many choose as they try and micromanage their break and discovery.

Breaking brings you in.  The prize inside the candy shell.  This journey beyond every break is very much worth it.

My life, my relationships, my health, my career… all very different – much better than eva! Because I knew deep within something more was available.  All that I experienced could have taken me down – I turned it around.   

And that is where, if you have followed my message, you’ve heard me say “create a life you love, you’re the co-creator of your reality.”

My own mind has searched what seemingly seems like a conflicting message.  How can I be co-creating this life that has had an underlying stream of pain, trauma, abuse, heartbreak, suicide, survival?  Why would I make choices to leave behind the stability of a partner, corporate career, steady income to take a path unknown?  How could co-creating my life and it not be all rainbows and unicorns?  (side note: you can have it ALL. #perspective)

I have questioned this enough to keep coming back to the consistent truth.

It is not what happens that makes you who you are – it is what you do with what is happening, who you allow yourself to become from it.  Your willingness and determination to remember – You are the prize within.  You are what you seek.

So, yeah, my work has evolved from the surface, poking through the cracks, to diving into the depths, and going BEYOND.

I can very much be with another pain, in their dark spaces, and ground very deeply into the truth for their remembrance of who they really are – beyond the pain, trauma, stories, mind fuckery.

And my work, where I guide others is not really all about the pain, trauma and darkness – that is a piece, an initiation, an invitation to choose. 

It is those pieces some must move through to remember the divine fucking miracle, power, gift, brilliance they are. 

It is where my journey has prepared me… to bring those who are ready to break – to become, to come back together by their own design.  Not mine, not some other’s blueprint – yours, theirs. 

I’m not afraid of the dark.  I see too many linger there longer than necessary.  I see too many let the dark take them over.

I’m here to guide, those who are ready beyond the break and to remembering the prize they are.

And from that space, guess what? 

All the things you desire come to you. Because you remembered. 

In breaking you become a vibrational match to what is true, real and right for YOU.

Your soul is guiding you.  What you’re going through is for you.  What you desire is within you.

Are you willing to let yourself break to become? 

Because, this is where I find most need support – creating that new life that lives in their heart and feeling empowered within themselves to know all is possible. 

8.26.2018

Soul Aligned Living – group course

I hate bursting a clients ‘dream balloon’.   

Hear me out…  I absolutely believe if your beliefs are aligned with your desires, all is possible.

What I am talking about here is the ‘dream’ that has become a distraction from remembering your truth.

The ‘dream’ you were taught –

“When you attain this thing outside you, then you can be happy and deem yourself successful.”

  • when your business hits a certain mark
  • when you lose that weight
  • when you find the partner/lover/marriage
  • when you make the multi-figures
  • when you get the new ________

…then you can be happy. No!

Or in the case of a client… Their success marker was focused on their clients attaining a certain feeling due to them working together.  I silent measure of their success held solely under the control of the client only.

All the power and measure of success on something outside of my client and their control.

But, that is what many of us were taught – when we can make that ‘thing’ happen, attain the ‘success’, do the ‘thing’, then we can be happy.

Nope. That is some old spiritual paradigm pieces dissolving.

Be happy first.  Live your pleasure. Do the things you enjoy. The rest follows.

Do you want to know the secret the successful, happy ones know and practice?

They know it begins within first.  Feel it first.  See it, align with it, allow it.  From within. 

They know it is their belief in the results they desire that aligns and guides them to have their desired experiences.  

How do I know they know? Because I work with them. I am their best-kept secret. Probably mostly because many of them had to do their craft, art, creations in the dark.

But now… no more hiding in the dark, not allowing yourself to play full out, holding back out of fear…. It is safe for you to be seen.  Nothing outside of you decides your value – you do.  You don’t have to look a certain way to follow your dreams and desires.  There is no having to ‘get it right’ when you’re doing you. 

I have seen you all along.

I’ve been waiting for your readiness.  I only take on the fierce who are determined to remember and reclaim their power.  

You used to be able to hide.  But now, life is not letting you escape the calling.

I’ve been down this road of needing to release what I thought my dreams were and let it all go.  I’ve also been in the space of not living my art, my expression, my joy, my way. 

When you are trying to escape your calling or avoiding your dreams, it is like a piece of you dying. But, don’t let that stop you. There is so much MORE of you and available for you through the integration of you and your soul. 

Are you ready to let your soul shine through? 

New circle forming September 1.

Four weeks together cultivating your soul aligned dream. The thing that is true for YOU. The way you want to do it, have it be it.

  • To feel grounded in being your full, authentic, real self. 
  • Enjoy all the fun stuff that happens for you when there is real alignment. Alignment with what is true for YOU.
  • Things become easier, life flows to you, what you need arrives, who you need to meet comes…

New group, 31 days, live streams, channeled messages, intuitive soul guidance.

Join us for 4-week immersion into you, your soul, your journey… #soulalignedliving

It is time to harvest all you have cultivated.

Do note – I will burst all your ‘bullshit dream bubbles’ that are not working for you.  I’ll bring you out of any haze keeping you from remembering what is true for you.

You’ll:

  • tap back into your deep truth,
  • clear up your confusion,
  • get clear direction and next steps,
  • uplevel your vibration,
  • transcend any limitations in your subconsciousness,
  • and other unspeakable transcendence and magic

Serious freedom seekers and high-level consciousness players need to consider.

Join us for all the magic #soulaligned living can do for you.


Soul Aligned Living: Harvest Time

  • Two live transmissions – monthly themes ($111)
  • Individual Energy Readings and
  • Intuitive Soul Guidance ($240)

BONUS: one, 30 minute private 1:1 laser focus call ($120)

Effective 8/27, the first 5 in the group by 9/3 receive the current bonus.

  • Total value = $471

Your investment – $150

What?!? You might want to jump in now before I realize the insanity of this offer.

Your responsibility

  • Show up for yourself.
  • Fully participate in your experience.
  • Be responsible for the energy you bring to the group.
  • Interact with the group – share and allow yourself to be seen.
  • Ask for what you need.

This group is as close to doing one on one work with me and the value is beyond measure.  This price is subject to change in future series.

Cancellation – Anytime.  Simply email me 48 hours in advance in order to not be charged for the next cycle.  No exceptions.

 


 

 

 

 

 


 

7.13.2018

Heart wide open


Raw, naked, vulnerable… 

Like I was breathing in and out directly from my heart.

My tender heart sitting there wide open.

Things no longer there to protect it.

Protection that once had a purpose but, now a barrier.

I get why. And why others would do the same.

Walking around this wide open is not always met. Walls feel safe. But also keep things out.

In letting it go, there is no putting it back.

This is SO next level surrender.

As my heart is free and breathes, 
~ I am met.
~ Magic shows up.
~ Connections are deep.
~ Love is all around.

I am my medicine.

You are your medicine.

I invite you to allow the walls and armor around your heart to drop.  Open up to the magic.  It is not as scary as you’ve been told.

4.9.2018

Are your BOUNDARIES being pushed, tested, violated?


That is so much of what is happening in the energy and what is up for transmuting collectively.

Take an empowered glance for yourself at what is happening… 

Is the underlying piece about boundaries?

Yes? Why?

Because you’re being guided into the POWER paradigm. 

Therefore, anything unlike it (empowerment) will rise up.

This isn’t about shaming or blaming any part of you that played the victim. 

It is about being offered the option of where you choose to put your attention, shift a belief, build the energy.

A lot of the old paradigm is collapsing.  You’re clearing out the inner pieces you have of it.

The perpetrators are also being called forth and the bright light being shined there. 

Try this one on for size…. In the name of Radical Responsibility –

  • Everyone is playing their part (until you don’t need them to any more).
  • If someone is crossing, violating, pushing your boundaries, something is being called forth FOR YOU.
  • To be a victim, there has to be a perpetrator (you can sometimes be doing it to yourself).
  • And for there to be a perpetrator there has to be a victim.

OR NOT.

What if each party shifted their focus, did their collective healing, owned their piece of the experience and exchanges?

First, it would take Radical Responsibility to look honestly within –

:: How you’re feeling about what is happening?

:: What is being reflected back to you in life? 

:: What is your piece?

Are you playing out any victim energy? Are you the perpetrator?

This ENTIRE paradigm is collapsing. 

I am seeing  it happen in all kinds of ways.

I share this so you know what and why things are happening and how to move THROUGH them and into where you’re being led.

There is a burning off, opening up, celebrating, setting free…

And what is left is LOVE. 

And that, my friends, is what is happening…

In the story of experiences playing out in your life, where boundaries are the underlying theme, it is about you being pointed toward remembering LOVE (and all that is encompassed).

You are Love.

Be grateful (as hard as it can be sometimes) for the people and experiences guiding you to REMEMBER.

Kelly Ann

 

By the way, The Way of the Empowered Empath course is ready to be birthed.

I’m watching the energy come together and create a vortex.

If you’re meant to be a part of it you’ll feel the attraction and energetic invitation.

It’s a vibratory grid and sacred space of upleveling beyond what words could even convey.

You’ll feel it.

Once it’s typed up, I’ll post here

I’m excited to get another group going.

Message me if you’d like a direct message with the details.

In the meantime, love yo’self UP!

1.7.2018

Mindset and Relationships – You are the Creator

Below I share a personal experience about Relationships, Manifesting and Empowerment. But, first I want to give you some background on what the Current Energies are.

{and I posted another angle to the energies on my page last night – check it. Can you see how it’s playing out for you?}

In the coming days – if not already – you’re going to see your patterns, beliefs and wounds from your past relationships pop up in your current exchanges (not only romantic).

Some examples of your:

victimhood

– boundaries

– worthiness

– truest desires

trauma

– fears…

When you become uncomfortable, the tendency is to try and fix the other person or have expectations of how the other (s) should behave.

Have something outside you change so you can feel better inside….??? Nope!  That keeps you stuck in the subconscious cycles and limiting patterns you are very much trying to break.

What is realllllly going on, in this uncomfortable exchange, is the other person is mirroring back to you something you have within you that you are believing or holding onto and it doesn’t serve who you really are and what you really want.

{read that again}

Your SOUL knows. That is how these exchanges are brought into your life.

The healing and shift in relationships happens within YOU first then the experience shifts.

For me, there was this one particular, profound quantum leap, complete shift in my experience  that proved all I now teach about mindset, energy, manifesting, empowerment, etc.

I had a “story” running through my mind about a relationship I was in. Alllll the things wrong. It is where my mind continually focused – all the wrongness. Creating a precise order to make manifest.

And it did – the way things were playing out were awful.

Until…. I decided to tell a new story.

In this new story, I allowed myself to fantasize about what I REALLY wanted. To imagine, vision, feel my hearts desires.

Because, under the surface – and what was manifest in the relationship – was about me having buried beliefs about what having what I want, love, need, desire… meant.

Fuck! Right? Trying sooooo hard to make things work and then realize I was in the way the entire time. Ahhhh… Ugggh! But, this is how we discover ourselves. #radicalselflove

I discovered I had beliefs along the lines of not deserving, unworthy, unlovable, ashamed for wanting, afraid if I allowed myself to have it then it would go away… And maybe a few other things.

Can you relate?

So, this one day I went into a meditation and let all my inner walls down. I allowed myself feel my desires, to imagine what the ideal exchange would be like, how it would feel to allow all I wanted to feel ….  #unfuckyourmind

And that very day!!, he came home and the scene I had visualized, felt and allowed myself to experience through my whole BEing, played out.

It was one of those mind blowing, alchemical, complete 180 before my eyes manifestations that reminded me of my power and showed me how to create shifts in my life.

It is important to be clear (especially with what this current energy is kicking up) – This had nothing to do with me changing him or having an expectation of his behavior.

It was about Me. My inner story, beliefs and fears. Once cleared and shifted then aligning my vibration, I was able to allow the experience I reallllly wanted.

So, as these experiences and opportunities for healing and growth appear FOR YOU, go inside yourself and ask …

• what is this showing me about me?

• what need do I have that I’m projecting in the other and angry for not fulfilling?

• what do I really want?

• if this “static” was not here, what could really be possible?

You know the saying ….“It’s not you, it’s me.”

You have been calling out for MORE. Life is presenting it to you – Likely not in the way you’d expect.  No one said this would be easy. But, if you’re here, you’ve got this!

* What you see is up to you.

* What you do is up to you.

By the way Love, you cannot get it wrong.

Fiercely CLAIM what you desire and how you want to feel and watch the world match you.

oxox,

Kelly Ann

2.22.2017

Ripple effects of healing your heart

In this session I did some heart healing with this beautiful soul. Spirit showed me a prominent relationship from her past that left some wounds.

I focused the heart healing within her and between them. She could see how that pattern continued in relationships that followed. She had been single for a while and quite frustrated.

When we have these open wounds, we tend to do all we can to keep the wound from being poked. That includes keeping the love we really want at arms length away from us – unconsciously and energetically.

It was a beautiful and gentle process where she felt a shift and changed the story about her experience. And then was asked out on two dates

When we shift the energy within and are able to see our story differently, our experience shifts.

I feel so honored to do this sacred work with beautiful people who are totally ready to shift what’s in their way of having the love and life they desire.

 

2.1.2017

Speak your truth

A theme running through right now is ‘speak your truth’. The energy is here providing us with opportunities to speak up for our beliefs, what we need, and how we feel.

This can be triggering and uncomfortable. 

– Triggering fears within before speaking up. There is no avoiding it any longer. We deeply we know we must speak up now. If we don’t speak up, it just doesn’t feel good. (Feels super bad)

– Triggering other emotions we have as we speak up. Maybe even emotions that don’t make sense given the circumstances – sadness, grief, overwhelm…

– Experiencing other people’s stuff getting triggered by us speaking up.

– Being triggered by another’s trigger.

So how the heck do we get through it?

* Speak your truth even if your voice shakes.

* Allow your feelings space to be felt.

* Be present with the energy that gets stirred up within. Let it move through you.

This could be a major turning point, internal energy shift, and deep healing opportunity. Embrace and honor where you are being led.

 

1.5.2017

How Buried Beliefs and Unhealed Wounds Play Out until Healed and Collapsed

“There is something I need to tell you”, he says. “I never filed for divorce”.  These words come through as she was ending the relationship.  This was important information he “had to get off his chest”.  Was it really necessary to share this now??  Could she have just walked away without knowing this?

Her heart sank.  The wool had been pulled over her eyes. Again.  Her stomach felt like it was being ripped out.  How could she have not known?  They were together nearly every day for six months; casually hanging out for a few months before that and friends from a long time ago.

She gave this man her heart, mind and body.  She allowed herself to trust him when he said  “the divorce is in progress. It is just a matter of time.  I love you. I have liked you for a long time.  I want to marry you.”  With that she had decided to move the relationship beyond a friendship.

In retrospect she sees how something was always kind of off.  She could never quite put her finger on it or have evidence of what was wrong.  But, there was a feeling.  She fought to be a part of his life beyond their relationship – to meet his friends, family, child.  She wanted to feel important to him.  Yet, the feelings she had were of shame and needing to be hidden – without evidence of why.

Hearing this information kind of flipped her world around and it at the same time it was a familiar experience. Looking back, it was necessary for her to hear and know this at this point in time.

This experience was familiar to a childhood experience, 30 years prior, where truths had been revealed that greatly impacted who she was and where she came from. An entirely different script had been revealed than what she had been living out.  The wool had been pulled from over her eyes.

The truth that had been revealed caused her to put up an invisible wall around her heart.  Not really allowing others to get too close – afraid she could be deeply hurt.  Buried beliefs had instantly been developed like – ‘there is something wrong with me’ (shame).

When we have buried beliefs, we do all we can to protect them and ourselves.  We put on fronts not wanting anyone to see what we believe about ourselves.  Unfortunately, these beliefs keep us from having what we truly desire in our lives.

Fast forward nearly a year later.  She attracts a great man into her life.  He is tall, handsome, funny, their humor and personalities fit well.  She gushes to her friends about how magical and fun it is.  Until… that wound, still not healed, raises it’s ugly head.

She creates an experience where she is questioning the new guys past and the details around his divorce.  Was he really divorced?  Why aren’t the numbers matching up to what he shared?

Buried beliefs about herself rise to the surface – she can’t trust who she chooses, she cannot allow herself to be happy.

In turn, the new guy, possibly triggered with his own stuff about his honesty being questioned, gets defensive and pulls away.

Exactly what her pattern and buried belief are built to do – keep her from getting close to another.  It is not about him at all – it is about her.  He is responding exactly how her program was built.

We are the creators of our lives.  As I said earlier, our higher self will help us attract into our lives the exact experiences and people to help us heal these wounds that keep us from allowing what we truly desire.  It is our divine right to enjoy life, experience love, have inner peace.

While our natural reaction may be to blame the other, they are the exact character in our life’s play to help bring down the walls around our hearts.  So while we may walk away or end a relationship that has caused us pain, we are actually being given an opportunity to go deeper within our hearts and align more with love.

Our minds will tell us this needs to be resolved with the other.  Truth is, it needs to be resolved within.  The experience is a manifestation of what is going on within.  Once the wound is healed and the buried belief is collapsed, the need to call in the experiences and people to help do that cease.

Who knows what will happen with this new guy.  He may have just come in to help reveal the buried beliefs and a layer of the unhealed wound.  Or he may be the one to help guide her deeper into love – with another and for herself.

Her mind naturally wants to prepare for the worst – another ending.

Yet, she knows the truth of the experience – she is the creator. She is healing and integrating the past parts of her that had been hurt.  She is focusing on the experience she truly wants to create.  This surely is threatening all her inner protective mechanisms.  Mechanisms that are no longer serving her in where she is headed.

It takes courage and commitment to see these parts of ourselves and drop the protection mechanisms.  Handling breakups and endings became easier as that was part of the pattern she had to keep herself safe.

Her opportunity now was to go into the unknown spaces of deeper love.  She is ready.

Better to have lost in love than never to have loved at all”.  The Eurythmics

12.8.2016

Relationships and love languages

Relationships with others are pivotal in our growth and expansion.  I believe we are all here, in this human experience, to learn about love – love for ourselves and love for one another.  Relationships are our one of our guides through that journey.

Relationships can bring us our biggest challenges in facing our own inner blocks to love.

Relationships can also bring out depths of love within us we didn’t know existed until another came along.

How we give love and how we receive love may be two different things.  Understanding this about ourselves and others can exponentially increase the depths of our relationships – with ourself and others.

Gary Chapman wrote a book “The Five Love Languages”.  He broke down five primary ways people connect with others.  This is not just for romantic, love relationships – all relationships.

The five Love Languages are:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Acts of Service
4. Gifts
5. Quality Time

Love, it really is another language.  When not understood or communicated using ones love language, it can be quite frustrating and cause discord in relationships where one, the other, or both does not feel loved.

Another way to put it: If someone were to speak to you in Spanish (and you don’t know the language), it would be hard for you to interpret what they are saying.  Same with your love language.  If someone is loving you up by giving you Gifts and your love language is Words of Affirmation, you may not feel the love they are expressing.

Not one of the five is better than another.  But, to know how you and another feels loved can support and create deep connections with little effort – just an awareness and a possible shift in how love is expressed.

Often times people show love to others the way they receive love.

This may not match the others love language.  Again, if your primary love language is Physical Touch, you are likely to connect with others through touch.  If anothers love language is Quality Time and you are connecting through Physical Touch, the difference there can have someone not feeling the love you are intending.

As I write this I am reminded of a time I went to my parents home to help clear up the yard (Acts of Service).  My mother didn’t know I was planning to do so.  I spent about four hours clearing brush, cutting down over grown trees and branches, raking leaves, clearing off the sidewalk and driveway.  When I finished I went to a farm up the street to get a plant to add some color to the porch and entry way my mother comes into the house (Gifts).

She called me later that night thanking me for all the work I did and how good it looked.  Then she spoke of the colorful plant (her favorite color too), asked if I bought it for her, shared how much she loved it and began crying.  The plant is what stood out to her and touched her the most.

So, knowing Gifts is her Love Language, I will keep this in mind when I want to be sure she knows I love her.

I believe our love languages can change depending on situations but, we’ll usually lean more toward a primary one or two.

Understanding your love language as well as others in your life can be a game changer in your relationships.  It is easy to find what your love language is.  Here is a link to a quick quiz.  Take it for yourself and share it with your partner, lover, friends.

What could be possible in this world if we all deepened our relationships with ourselves and others?

Knowing our love language and that of others is one way we can all increase the vibration of love within and through the world.

10.11.2016

Radical Self Love as a Spiritual Practice

I believe there has been a long time misunderstanding and confusion about what self love means. I consider radical self love to mean caring for yourself, honoring your well being, taking responsibility for yourself and your life, respecting your body, meeting yourself with compassion and kindness, making empowered choices, being a conscious participant in creating your reality. Self love certainly is not about being an egomaniac, self centered, or arrogant.

We have unconsciously been taught that to love ourselves is to be vain, selfish, conceited, and wrong. We learned to feel ashamed about liking ourselves – never mind speak to anyone out loud about our goodness.

Radical self love is a way to shift these beliefs and unconscious thought patterns. These buried beliefs we picked up and made meaning about ourselves are not serving our greatest potential. These patterns and beliefs hold us back from living out our fullest expression in this life.

Our life experience is a manifestation of the vibration we carry within us. This is why I suggest Radical Self Love as a Spiritual Practice. The relationship we have with ourselves is what is expressed from within and mirrored back to us.

We teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. We see the reflection back from our experiences with others and in life. We have the ability to shift what we experience by loving ourselves more.

My reality is a reflection of who I believe I am.

Before I began teaching and coaching radical self love, I was on the phone crying to a friend about how poorly someone important to me how treated me. Thank goodness this friend didn’t feed into my story of being a victim and told me the truth – “You have to love yourself first”, she said. I gasped ” C’Mon! Of course I love myself!”

After some honest, inner exploration, I discovered I had no idea what ‘to love myself first’ really meant. In fact, what was happening around me and in my relationships reflected how I was treating myself. Gasp!

When I started to practice radical self love, my entire life experience shifted to more positive interactions and outcomes. I felt more confident, self assured, I trusted myself. Who and what I attracted into my life felt better and I was more in the flow.

Unfortunately, not many of us know how to truly love ourselves. This is a key piece preventing us from manifesting our dreams and creating the lives we desire.

We must be easy on ourselves through this inner exploration. The relationship we have with ourselves was developed from what we learned by example from the generations before us and their self love – or lack of. We also made meaning about ourselves from how they treated us.

Many of us have been through some challenges and traumas in our past where we’ve unconsciously decided those experiences meant “I don’t matter”, “I’m not important enough”, “I’m not worth it” or something along those lines.

Then what happens is we carry that with us and our life reflects back to us these meanings throughout our relationships and experiences.

Radical self love wipes out those stories and old programs.

Radical self love reframes the beliefs about who you think you are. Allow me to remind you who you are… You are amazing being that the universe thought was a great idea and brought you here at this particular time because you play a unique, exceptional part in the vastness of the entire experience of this world.

Yes. It is true. So, to think that you are not worthy, not valued, or don’t matter is ri-dic-u-lous! Lets just start there.

In order to change what was happening in my life I brought conscious attention to what I was focusing on and putting my energy towards. I started to realize how the negative, Debbie Downer thoughts I was expressing matched my experiences!

I put more attention toward what I wanted to feel and experience than what was actually happening.

Self love is the new anti-aging.

:: I changed the way I spoke to myself – I wrote affirmations and mantras on sticky notes all over my home. Soon attracting a partner who said the exact words to me.

:: I loved up my body – healthier choices became more natural and easier to make. With the heavy, negative thoughts gone, physical weight released too.

:: I practiced giving more to myself and built the muscle of feeling safe to allow and receive – more good came my way for me to receive from others and life.

:: I said “no” to others and said “yes” to myself – giving myself what I needed first because we are all better for the world when our own cup is full first.

:: I nourished my soul through allowing my feelings to flow and not hold them back any longer – I swear it is the best anti-aging secret!

:: I bravely stood up for myself – I showed the inner parts of me that life is safe now, I am in charge and I’ve got my back.

:: I created a life I love by letting go of others expectations – creating a business that shows others how they can do the same.

:: I let go of resenting others – seeing how holding on held me in the vibration of being wronged or victimized (dead weight for my energy field).

:: I practiced and became skilled at self trust by making choices my heart guided me to – finding myself in the flow of life and ending up exactly where, when and with whom I am meant to be.

Reframing the inner thoughts and beliefs creates an energetic shift and the outer experience becomes a match to that vibration.

If what we are experiencing doesn’t feel good it is a signal to take a brave, compassionate look within.

Doing the inner exploration of my thoughts, beliefs and how I was creating my world wasn’t always easy. Along the way I had help making these changes. I created practices to remind me the truth of who I am and how to always come back to self love.

If you are inspired to add radical self love as a part of your practice, begin by:

:: exploring your beliefs,
:: asking yourself honest questions,
:: place attention on what you say about yourself,
:: notice the things you are focusing your energy toward,
:: look at the visions you are playing over and over in your mind.

The most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.

All change happens within and then manifest in your experience. Nurture and make the relationship with you a priority and witness the world reflect back to you. You are so worth your own time and attention!

Would you like a guide to help you make this part of your practice and change your relationship? Grab a mini e-course: A guide to radical self love.

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