Entries Tagged as 'Radical Self Love'

6.25.2019

THE SOLUTION TO YOUR STRUGGLE IS NOT TO DO MORE.

// Have you done all the things and still not having the results you desire? //

It doesn’t matter if it’s about attracting LOVE, making more MONEY, transitioning into your own BUSINESS, finally sharing your ART, or releasing excess WEIGHT…

If you have an underlying commitment to remain where you are or a shadow aspect of yourself operating from fear, the actions you take, the desires you put out to the universe won’t produce the outcomes you desire.

For example the shadow of SHAME.

A client has been on a hamster wheel, feeling frustrated, and unable to complete and release her art and projects – for YEARS.

In her session I identified the underlying pattern of her holding shame from what happened to her as a child.

She was programmed to believe she was bad and the violations she experienced were her fault.

She had a subconscious fear that she’d be seen and everyone would find out she’s really a bad person.

The underlying operating pattern has her self sabotaging, in resistance, and playing the perfectionist.

She saw how she’s been kicking the rock ahead of her and having excuses of why she can’t quite get beyond the finish line.

To get off the hamster wheel and finally launch her art and projects means healing the shame.

Until the shame she’s carried and the beliefs she’s created about herself are cleared, no amount of doing things will launch her forward to where she says she wants to be.

For other clients the underlying causes have been a fear of being heart broken 💔 again kept them attracting the “wrong ones”, single longer than desired or in unhappy relationships.

Another, the fear of being abandoned if she was successful held her in “just enough” money.

Another, old resentment and anger toward others held excess weight.

The underlying cause isn’t a direct relation to the results.

When the underlying aspects that keep the behaviors and patterns in place are cleared, all the doing becomes being and you tap into a state of empowered creation (versus creating from shadow).

So, the thing you’re feeling frustrated about and struggling with… it’s not about doing more things. It’s about a subconscious commitment to not disrupt the protection patterns you’ve developed to keep you and your shadows safe.

If you’ve been struggling and ready to clear what’s underlying and take that leap beyond where you’ve been hovering, let’s have a chat and see if Beyond Your Edge is a fit.

It’s a six week, one on one private mentoring intensive where what’s in your way will be cleared and you’ll tap into the divine creator self you are.

I know you’ve been hovering. You know there is more you want to experience. Are you ready to push your edge and go beyond?

There are 4 spaces available and doors close June 30th (is when all spots are taken).

Your investment is 1997. Payment plans available.

Details at www.KellyAnnCory.com/beyondyouredge

6.12.2019

Beyond Your Edge

Are you questioning EVERYTHING?

Questioning your business, your relationships, where you live, your body, money, WTF you’re doing in your life…? ?

Are you ready to give up, throw in the towel and just quit it all?  

Are you wondering if you’re doing it ‘right’ and where the hell you’re headed?

Are all your fears, self-doubt, insecurity rising to the surface?

Excellent.  {rubbing my hands together with a grin on my face – I love this space!}

You are right in line and on time.

  • Time to go beyond your edge.
  • Time to leap into the experiences you say you want for yourself.
  • Time to allow the expression of who you are to be set free.
  • Time to make the transitions you’ve been holding off out of fear, doubt, insecurity.
  • Time to allow your desires to come into form.

This also means the old has to die off.

The die off isn’t easy.  It’s squirmy and uncomfortable.

I’ve let myself die off every time I’ve been brought to my edge and leapt into the unknown.

From there I have always built better and created new.  

At times it felt like I might never make it through because that is what dissolution of limitations feels like – death.

Death of fear, ego, insecurity, self doubt… All the stuff that held back who I really am and this life I desire to be living.

My desires are my guide.  

The Universe, God, Source is my GPS coming through my intuition and guiding me as I leapt into the unknown.

There is no way around the unknown or being able to control how the journey unfolds.  

Yet, there is a way to navigate through the leaps and transitions feeling empowered.

SO many times it would have been easier to shrink back and settle into what I knew, into what felt safe and secure.  The relationship, the corporate career, the big house…

But, that is not how I am built.

Have you ever seen a chrysalis try to remain in its goo state?  You know, the transition space right before it becomes a butterfly.

It is nearly impossible to not become the butterfly.

The same thing with your expansion, growth and ascension.  It is happening regardless.

If you’re questioning anything or everything, you’re in the goo state.  Not really knowing what is next, the unknown is freaking you out, the dismantling of who you are is happening…

You’re being brought beyond your edge.  

The edge is where many turn back.  

  • The discomfort of the unknown feels too much.  
  • The feeling of loss of control too unstable.  
  • The fears that rise up, too much to face.  

And, you’re exactly in the right place.  

This is not a time to turn back.  

How many years have you been turning back?  How much longer are you going to put off what you truly desire for yourself?

What do you do?

-Run toward or away from what you want?

– Blind yourself to seeing the gifts in front of you?

– Make the same choices as you have in the past?

– Choose what your mind / ego knows or follow your heart and Soul?

THIS.IS.THE.TIME you’ve been moving and growing toward.

Don’t give up now!

It is up to you to choose differently. To not allow the fears, conditioned limitations, current status quo to stop you.

It is time to go BEYOND YOUR EDGE.  Time to take the leap and make the transition to where your Soul has been leading you.

Let me tell you … If I didn’t have the support and Guides leading the way, reminding me who I am, and holding my hand as I leapt beyond on my journey, I know I would not be where I am today.

And I am so glad I went through the hard parts to get myself where I am today.  

I am doing work I love with amazing people, I have close friends all over the world, I am free from debilitating anxiety, depression and trauma triggers, I have the freedom in my days I always wanted…

Beyond Your Edge is a six week accelerated one on one private mentoring course for those who know a next step is what is necessary.  You know there is something in your way and you can’t put your finger on it.

We’ll begin with me identifying your biggest hidden block and transmuting the root cause and the energy holding it in place.  From there unveiling the clarity of your desires and taking the bold next steps you know you’ve needed to take. We continue on with fierce creation and doing the damn things.

This is a highly intensive, high touch, intimate course for those who are ready for the change they’ve been holding off.

Your investment for this private, one on one mentoring course is $1,997.

Full pay bonus: One month free inside my membership group “Mind Mastery: Unfuckyourmind. Your Grand Awakening“. Payment plans are also available.

If this feels like you, message me to apply for your space and we’ll discuss the details and ensure this course is a good fit.

Because of the energy and attention this course provides, there are only five spaces available and doors to this offer close June 30th (or when the spaces are filled).

5.14.2019

Willing to love?

We can only love and be loved as much as we are willing to have our hearts broken open.

What are you willing to do in order to experience what you say you want?

#unfuckyourmind
#setyourheartfree
#quantumleaps

5.12.2019

Your fear of heartbreak is…

…keeping the love you desire at bay.

If your heart had been broken, it’s been broken open. Keep it open. Don’t close it off in fear of more pain.

The opening has been created for more love to come in.

Don’t look at the one who broke it open as the villain. They were the exact one you called into your life to create the crack and set your whole heart free.

From that open space you get to experience more of who you are and call in a match to that new resonance.

A match to your open, free, love filled heart.

#unfuckyourmind
#setyourheartfree

4.2.2019

Is your genius, message and gifts being numbed out?


Big pharma is numbing out Geniuses, Sensitives, and Empaths – the next level leaders here to have a ripple effect of change in the world.

Maybe it’s not DEPRESSion medication you’re genius, message and gifts are being numbed out by…

It’s also your people pleasing, the focus on your plan B, the drama distractions, your need to control the ‘how’ of all outcomes, the mind fuckery you give your attention and energy to… Fear, insecurity, self doubt, worry…

All of that can be flipped and the energy and effort used for creation of what you actually want to experience.

💣 You’re a motherfucking creator and you’re afraid of your POWER. It’s not your fault. It’s in the programming.

💣 And you ARE more powerful than the programming.

I didn’t need Prozac, Wellbutrin or Zanax.

I needed to get radically honest about my sexless relationship, soul sucking job, the extra 100 pounds on my body and how I was living numbed out, constrained and contained inside the “American Dream”.

I had it all and felt nothing.

Even though I did not have examples around me of others living MORE, I felt and knew more was possible.

Ahhhh but, was I just I a dreamer? Delusional?

YES. And, thank fucking goodness.

💪🏻 I made bold moves, radical decisions and let it all crumble along the way.

💪🏻 I built new and I created MORE from all that fell away.

💪🏻 There were shaky, soul shattering times and I created more and BETTER from them too.

What kept falling away was who I was not. The parts of me playing out roles of who I was taught to be and how life was to be lived.

There was more of me and life on the other side of my bold, rule breaking CHOICES.

Holding in all of who I really was led to living a mediocre, robotic life.

And yet, something within always leading and guiding me; giving me hints and opportunity along the way.

It was up to ME to take the leaps, make the harder choices, jump into the transitions.

It is kind of like pulling a band aid off quickly. You know it might hurt AND the pain is over quick.

Prozac didn’t do that for me. The pain lingered longer – under the surface; waiting for me to fiercely choose ME and remember nothing outside of me is more powerful than me.

🙈 Not only was my pain numbed out (and never really gone), so was my life.

🐵 Life was kind of like walking around inside of one of those huge sports mascot costumes.

Until I didn’t fucking care to live numbed out and robotic any more.

💥 I took the leaps and landed in all the nets – even when there wasn’t any evidence.

💥 I followed my inner guidance and developed deep trust in myself and life.

And one day I was like “Holy Fuck… I have the freedom in my life I said I wanted”.

It’s just that it didn’t look 👀 like what it “should”.

Taking this path to FREEDOM, shedding who I wasn’t, and waking up to more of who I am was well worth the temporary discomfort than the long term prescribed 💊 discomfort of having to keep managing holding back myself and the life I really wanted.

My time is mine, I love the work I do, I’m healthier and more fit, I have meaningful connections, I creatively and freely express myself as inspired, and know I have the power create even more.

What leap would you take, what transition would you make if you had unwavering trust that what you need is already within you and you just have to get out of the way and set yourself free?

 

3.26.2019

Trauma as your initiation


Trauma was your initiation. The past is done. Yet, you’re still in the battle. You’re carrying forth your biggest limitation rather than what was meant to build your strength.

Trauma was your initiation. It was not meant to be your lifestyle.

You walk around wearing a heavyweight championship belt with so much pride, you don’t realize the armor you still carry.

Armor around your heart.
Armed guards keeping people at bay.
Invisible defenses on the lookout for all potential risks.

All keeping you from what you say you want. Love, Money, Business…

You’re showing up wanting the fight more than you want your desires to be fulfilled.

You say you’ve gotten past your past but it’s written all over your life. Fight. Defend. Fight. Defend. All in the name of “success” and winning battles that reap no rewards.

You’re still fighting a fight that’s long been over. Carrying your past into your every day. Defensive energy exuding from your pores. Attracting experiences for you to carry on your fight or keep away the very thing your heart desires.

The trauma was your training ground for you to realize what you’re made of. Your initiation was to show you who you really are.

You were meant to walk away stronger and more skilled. To break free from the imposed limitations and mind fuck programming.

You were meant to remember the Divine creator you are.

What you can’t see beyond the armor and programming is the risk of letting down the armor is only there because you’ve entangled yourself up in the fight and trauma to remain “safe”. And, that stance attracts more of the same experiences.

You’re fighting against yourself. You are in your own way.

The fight / defense / safety keeps you from making the change, taking the leap, and opening your heart to experience more.

Defense, fight, battle, trauma energies are going to attract more of the same. This is a vibrational world. Like attracts like. What you put your attention on expands. It’s not magic, it’s science.

No failure, no person, no circumstance can hurt you unless you continue writing and speaking it into your life.

The limitations you are frustrated by are your creation.

Infinite energy is available for you to create as you design.

Are you creating what you really want to create?

You are powerful beyond measure. You’re creating it all.

Do YOU want to be liberated, free and successful?

Let your walls down. Release the armed guards. Take your power back from you past. Take the risks.

Now, that’s true strength.

Your desires are worth putting down the armor for.  And you’ll feel much lighter, freer and empowered.

11.6.2018

3 signs your shadow kicked in


I got my ass kicked a bit. Each time, and I don’t know that it has to be this way, I’m about to take a quantum leap, anything limiting and everything not aligned with the next level me, comes up for clearing and transmuting.

Abandonment. Can you relate?

If so, you’ve:
• Been left,
• Had relationships you didn’t want to end comes to conclusion,
• Not had your needs met,
• Put in your all and the other just walks away,
• Not been seen for who you are, been rejected for being you,
• Not been included, invited, thought of,
• Still holding on to another because you’re afraid to feel alone…

Abandonment appears to be a part of what I’m here to transcend and transmute.

You see, when I found out a plan was in place and I wasn’t invited to participate, it was like Freddie Krueger’s knife fingers went into my heart and tore down through my entire torso.

For real. That’s how painful it felt.

Emotional wounds can feel as painful as pouring alcohol on an open physical cut. Would you agree?

When we have deep, core wounds, we develop shadow aspects to either protect, reject or project the wounds.

It is why so many avoid their shadow and wounds.

The wound being so painful, you don’t want to have to feel it EVER AGAIN.

That’s where your shadow kicks in.

Your shadow PROTECTS the wound by avoiding everyone and everything that would potentially trigger or poke your wound.

This manifests as isolation (not always a bad thing) and energetic walls around you keeping people out and, keeping you from doing things you want and being with people you want to be with.

You REJECT the wound by disregarding it’s existence. Ignoring the negative experiences in your life and bypassing the feelings you have.

This erupts in bursts of emotional expression – anger, anxiety, overwhelm, fear, depression… Physically manifesting in aches, pains, illness, etc.

You PROJECT the wound into the world and it mirrors back to you through life circumstances and your interactions in relationships.

The very thing you’re trying to avoid reflecting right back at you.

Initially, I attempted to try and convince the other person involved to understand my point of view about not being included.

Like a bull in a china shop.

Yeah, I didn’t handle it the best. My shadow kicked in and with all its armor and fighting gear at the forefront to protect the abandonment wound triggered by feeling left out of something I deemed important.

After reflection, I saw I had projected my story of abandonment onto the other so I could release the energy and story within.

The heavy energy. The limiting story.

I took at look at the truth of this old story…

—> Can I really be abandoned?

—> How do I abandon myself?

That’s a start to integrating your shadow.

The gift of integrating the shadow is what I’ve learned from all the abandonment experiences.
– discernment
– boundaries
– speaking my truth
– taking care of me
– self trust… and more.

The learnings may be different for you.

The point is integrating shadow is about –

: reclaiming all parts of you and coming into balance,
: transcending the limitations and embracing the empowerment your life experiences are bringing forth,
: detaching from the circumstances and going within and making adjustments,
: Diving into what you’re avoiding… because on the other side is the breakthrough.

Integrating your shadow holds the key to what you seek.

It’s not outside you, it’s within. And you are THAT clever and powerful.


Doors to You are the Medicine close tomorrow. Identify your shadow, integrate, and expand… what we’ll be doing over the course of the month.

Divine downloads and Soul channeled guidance for you to break your limited thinking and the patterns you continue to repeat.

Ready to be free? There are two 30 minute BONUS 1:1 calls with me left. Grab yours now.

10.28.2018

Are you blocking the LOVE you say you desire?


Last night I was in a deep meditation with the intention on healing and gaining clarity. My dad came through. I was being shown how much he loved and cared for me.
 
I felt love come in from him I didn’t even realize I had been holding back.
 
You see, I was part of a package deal when my dad met my mother. In the 70’s it wasn’t hip to be a teen mom. Back then, you might as well be wearing a bell bottom polyester suit with scarlet letters all over it.
 
My dad, a Vietnam veteran, was introduced to my mother by her BFF soon after he returned from the war. I understand he was smitten with her.
 
My mother, not so open to his desires, due to having trauma and abuse in her life, was weary.
 
Some things get passed down until someone decides to heal it.
 
Then there was me. Part of the package deal.
 
He signed on and adopted me when I was under 1 years old.
 
My biological father signed off on me upon learning of my conception. Thankfully. It insured his hands would never land on me.
 

My dad was someone I always felt like I could be myself around.

 
He passed suddenly 2 years ago, August 2016.
 
Because of my internal work, my soul determination, and who I’ve become, I can easily speak to my dad now at anytime. He and I are closer than ever.
 
I feel him watching over me, guiding me, cheering me on. He helped me open my heart.
 
Even last night.
 
You see, the storage in my phone is full. The system says it’s my voice notes storage.
 
Later last evening, I had an “inspired thought” to clear out my phone voice notes.
 
I started at the bottom – titled 2/14/12.
 
I play it. My dad’s voice comes through.

 

“Hi Kel, it’s me. I wish you a Happy Valentines Day. I hope everything is okay. Talk to you later. Have a happy day.”

 
I’m just remembering this as I type… when he connected with me in my meditation earlier, I asked him to send me a sign, to come through to me.
 
Then I let it go.
 
Later on, there he was. His voice and all. Thanks Dad. You.Fucking.Rock.
 
I share to encourage you be fucking determined to dig deep and clear what is in the way of you having what you say you desire. It is worth it.
 
Do not let anything get in the way of allowing in the love from those who love you. No matter where they are.
 
Because, what I know, if you’re holding back from one who loves you, you’re holding back from others who want to love you.
10.19.2018

Shame. The paradigm is dissolving. All the feels.


Okay, now… Let me ask you…

* Have you been feeling super challenged lately?
* Has life been handing you more than you feel like you can handle?
* Have you had a recent breakdown (or a few)?
* Does it seem like everything is changing and you’re not sure what to do?

Yep. Same.

Major clearing happening. The paradigm of SHAME is collapsing.

Yesterday morning I was feeling lots of shame. Even felling ashamed sharing I have shame. What a fucking mind virus, eh?

As I have been present with myself and all the discomfort, I see the recent week or so of this upheaval energy moving through, has an underlying theme of shame.

It’s not about what is happening but the underlying spark to fire off shame.

Shame is having another say something about you and you believe it to be true.

• Have you noticed yourself comparing yourself to others?
• Your inner voice saying “you fucked up, you’re doing it wrong, you’re not enough”?
• Or something along those lines?

It’s even more challenging with internet access and social media. All ways we can subtly, subconsciously can be shamed and shame ourselves. Oy vey!

It’s not just the present time. If you carry shame from your past, all of what is happening is to clear it out.

I’m resonating with this clearing due to shame in my system from my past. I was manipulated into believing I should be ashamed of myself (for things done to me).

And because of what I do for a living (healing work), I feel shame for not being through it and 100% “healed”. More useless mind fuckery.

The paradox is … it is EXACTLY why I’m so good at what I do around shifting mindset and alchemizing energy. I get it – all sides of it.


Is shame holding you back?

There’s been a lot of #unfuckyourmind happening over here in these parts. No coincidence I’m running a course called “The Art of Being You” – where all members of the group are being divinely guided to be their fullest expression.

This layer of shame and dissolution of the shame paradigm are a piece of the process of my fullest expression.

Fortunately, I understand what is happening and have the tools and resources to clear out this next layer.

Because, where I’m headed and what I’m aligning with, there is no room for shame. It’s got to go.

Same for you.

For all of us. I mean – we are seeing shame being cleared on a collective and very public level. It is going to impact any of us holding shame. Macro / Micro. Masculine / Feminine.

The best, most effective way is through.

So, as powerful co-creators we are, life manifests in ways to get us to clear out the crevices, face the parts of ourselves we carry but no longer serve who we are.

I see it manifesting in total life upheaval, relationships ending, homes shifting, money collapsing, bodies expressing the misalignment, career / business shifts… Much of which you won’t see coming.

When life seems to be falling apart, it’s not easy to be all “ra ra ra”. But, don’t hide either. You’re only as sick as your secrets. Let it out. Allow the clearing.

Life is FOR you. What is happening is supporting you.

And, I get it, the battle with shame can be a rough one.

Shame is the table top and the legs holding it up are aspects of
– fear of abandonment,
– survival,
– insecurity,
– not-enoughness,
– being wrong…

So, it is not just shame you may be facing. It’s all the things related that placed shame as the guardian.

It’s a lot at once. Major clearing happening. And –> YOU’VE GOT THIS!


What I’ve done to support myself and the release is get down and back to the basics.

:: Make sure I’m in the present moments. Not ruminating in my past or fearing the future.

:: Self care. Which may mean putting things off, others being disappointed…

:: Feel the energy and sensations in my body. Allow them to move through.

:: Paying attention to where my thoughts and self talk are and shift as needed.
(Side note: mantras and such are helpful but not if used to cover up what is underlying. What’s underlying has to be cleared or you’ll keep attracting it)

:: Clear my mind by dumping everything into my journal.

:: Reach out for support when my amygdala is stuck and my nervous system has gotten hijacked.

What do you do to help yourself? 

That’s the thing with shame… it puts people in hiding. Imagine if we all just put it out there? There would be nothing to hide from.

Because I’ll tell you… I know I’m not the only one feeling all this and being challenged. You are not alone.

It’s only what I / you think about what you are seeing and feeling that makes the suffering continue.

I share this today so you know you’re not alone, not broken, not doing it wrong…

:: You can and will be through the other side of this.
:: Take care of you.
:: Don’t let your mind fuck with you.
:: Allow the energy to move however it needs.
:: Reach out for support.

Because on the other side and through the feelings and energy presented, I feel much more my true self, at peace, trusting life, in my heart, creative, connected and available.

At this point, what do you really have to lose?

It is so much more about what is to gain.
oxox
Kelly Ann

P.S. The next You are the Medicine monthly group membership is opening for November…. Details in this link.

If you haven’t heard about the monthly group, each month a theme is downloaded and the members are guided home, to themselves, where they tap deeply within and remember who they are and what has been there all along

I tune into the energy – like astrology but, with guidance about what to do with the energy present.  I read each members energy through their responses and channel Soul guidance specifically for them.

I have 8 bonus calls available – those 30 minute sessions are FIRE!  We blast through, get to the core, and each leaves feeling clearer, lighter, inspired, and with next steps.

Here is what one member had to say about the groups –

“If you are looking someone to guide you she is it.

I’ve witnessed so much magic for myself and all the others in the group.  The groups are fabulous! So much changes for you in just 4 weeks but like Kell said the more you show up the more you get out of it.

The groups are special, it’s not just Kelly supporting you, it’s the entire group. Lots of love and support!!”
– Steph

Grab your bonus one on one session and entry to the group now.

 

10.18.2018

Relationship Triggers, Mirrors… and what its all for


I did a live transmission on Facebook with my friend Jordan at his space – Heaven on Earth Healing Center – in Southington, Connecticut.  You can watch the replay here or click the picture.

We had a conversation about Triggers, Mirrors, and the opportunities for growth, evolution, and healing life is presenting through them.

We’re in profound energy… Take advantage of the opportunity!

EVENT
If you are in the Connecticut area, I am doing an in-person Full Moon Energy Alchemy & Quantum Healing for Transformation group session on Thursday, October 25th.

Here is the link with all the details for the event in CT.

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