Are you effin’ kidding me? I know some pretty amazing single women who are secure and have more going for themselves than to worry about nagging anyone.Options
He took a 6 month break last year to explore his “options”. Because, you know, it’s never about you and the grass is greener (insert sarcasm here). His friends set him up on a few random blind dates and he spent time alone too. But his insecure, nagging girlfriend is still better than “what is out there”. Really?Settling
Reminds me of this quote I saw today “Better to be alone, than hurt in love”. Maybe it’s not necessarily painful for him to be in the relationship. I believe there is no reason for anyone to settle. You don’t have to compromise on having someone mistrust you or nag on you about stuff they’re not willing to do themselves. Compromise on dinner times, what side of the bed to sleep on and TV shows – not your heart and self respect. What’s painful is not allowing your heart to fully express itself with another, having to explain yourself and your where-abouts constantly, and having to deal with someone else’s insecurities (who isn’t willing to work on them herself).
Heart’s desires
I began to wonder – is this an ideal relationship he has been dreaming about? I doubt
it. Then my mind began to wonder about the times I settled in my relationships. The men who cheated, but I took them back; the ones where we fought like cats and dogs, but came back together, or the ones who had nothing to offer but a good time in bed. My heart desires more. As painful as letting go and being single is, my heart deserves more. Your heart deserves more.Attract it
I believe what you want is available to you. Anything and everything. You’re a powerful creator. You can attract – and do – attract amazing things into your life. You know, the parking space, the perfect outfit (on sale even), and the friend who calls just when you think of her. Why are those things so easy? You’re not attached. Love and your heart are riskier – there is more at stake.
Risk
Are you afraid at failing in love? Do you doubt what you really want exists? What came to me when pondering this was it’s not about what is ‘out there’ it’s about what is going on within. It’s the doubts, insecurities, and fears. Yours. Let them go.
What if
What if you could really have what you wanted? If there were a genie lamp in front of you, what would you wish for? Do you believe it exists? Do you believe YOU are good enough to have what you really want? Doubt will get in your way of allowing and attracting your hearts desires. Ditch your doubts.
Make a wish
You are the only one in the way of having what you really want. Your limiting beliefs. Your fears. Your insecurities and doubts. If you knew you were the most amazing catch available, would you settle for the relationship that is currently in your life? Would you settle for those you go out with and give your time and attention to? If you were to rub a magic lamp, would this be the relationship / partner you’d wish for?
Dream it up.
Feel it.
Wish for it.
Radical Self-Love
Fall in love with you. Realize your amazingness. Put some time and attention on all that is great, fun, handsome, sexy, talented, and gifted about you. Because, it’s not so much about what is ‘out there’, it’s about what’s ‘in there’. When you clear away your own insecurity, fears, and doubts how you feel about you, you shine. People see that. That is attractive. Like attracts like.The hunt for the perfect mate ends because you become a living magnet for who you are. It becomes effortless.
Begin within
Be the person you wish to be with. Don’t settle for less than what your heart desires.
Treat yourself as you wish to be treated by another. Dream big about who you want to spend your precious time and life with.
What you desire IS out there…. don’t settle for less than what you’re heart truly desires.
You know exactly why you are reading this message right now.
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