You’re successful, you work hard, take care of your home and maybe children and pets, you have networking to do, outside obligations, you’re running a business a with team, you’re on committees and in groups and do everything else that goes along with being in charge of your life. Yet, that you leave no time or space for a relationship.
Is there room in your life for Love? Ask yourself these 2 questions:
1. Why am I keeping myself so busy?
Are you avoiding the alone time? Are you afraid of what it might feel like if you had the time to yourself? If you’re avoiding being with yourself do you really feel you’ll make good company for someone else?
2. Do I really want to be in a relationship?
Seems like an obvious question. You have an online dating profile, you ‘put yourself out there’, and there is a part of you that wants a relationship. But, what time and attention are you putting toward having a relationship?
Just like all the other successes in your life, a relationship requires time, attention, and energy (at least, the ones worthwhile). If you can’t create time and space for in your life now, can you really expect to magically have that time and space in your life when a relationship comes along?
I know you’re probably saying, “I’ll make time when it comes”. It doesn’t work that way. You won’t be given more than you can handle and if you’re too busy with other things in your life, a relationship cannot makes its way in.
Are you ready to make a shift? Here’s how:
- Create space in your life, in your day, in your week, in your month.
- Mark free time in your calendar. Create non-working time. Let go of things you don’t love doing.
- Stop saying “yes” to things you don’t really want to do.
- Get out and be social (not just networking events).
- Give your life some space; it creates a vacuum to attract what you want into the space you’ve created.
If having alone time is too uncomfortable for you, that is a good sign there is something underneath that needs healing and attention. A relationship is not the cure for loneliness or heartache, healing is the cure.
“You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” ~ Eckhart Tolle