In working with my private clients, in Intuitive Love Readings, and in my personal life I’ve discovered many of us falsely believe our needs aren’t important. We’ll bend over backwards, go out of our way, push aside our own priorities to help another first. This just ends up having you feel depleted, tired, off balance, angry or resentful (and sometimes not even know why – this could be one reason).
We’re not meant to do this life alone and I’m not suggesting you forget about those in your life, I’m just sharing how you might not be getting what you want out of life due to a false belief – that serves no one!
Some might believe (mostly unconscious):
- my needs are bad or wrong
- my needs don’t matter
- my needs aren’t going to get met anyway
- it’s selfish to have needs
- I have to take care of others first
You end up experiencing exactly what you feel and believe inside (and then attracting a partner who doesn’t value or respect your needs and desires). Because these beliefs are generated from within – maybe from past experiences – that is where the shift needs to begin – within you. You might not even know where this belief came from. It could be something someone said to you or how you were treated – it doesn’t matter. What matters is turning it around. You are important!
Give yourself what you need and desire.
Here are some ideas:
- Make that over due check-up or doctor appointment
- Play hooky – do whatever you want or nothing at all (no one needs to know!)
- Take a nap, sleep in
- Do something FUN! – a new hairdo, night out to a movie (popcorn and all!), give yourself an escape weekend to the spa or a B&B and just relax
- Hire a coach, mentor, or counselor
- Create alone time for yourself
- Get a job, quit the job that doesn’t serve you
- Take a hot bath with bubbles!
- Get a massage, pedicure, energy work session
- Ask for a hug, kiss, back rub from your loved one
- Pick up that guitar, yarn, or other hobby you just “haven’t had time for”
As you can see, giving to yourself doesn’t always mean it has to come from you! It means realizing your needs are important and when you’re needs are met you are better equipped to show up fully in life for yourself and for others.