Whether your past relationship ended abruptly or it was on a downward spiral for some time, giving yourself time, space and healing is imperative to preparing yourself for the next relationship.
Detoxing and detaching from past relationships is a very important part of the process in attracting your next partner. You don’t want to be bringing your pain, hurt, and broken heart in to the next relationship (some might call it baggage).
Here are some hints you have some detoxing to do:
- You still complain about your ex and how they did you wrong
- When you talk about past relationships you feel anger, sadness, and resentment inside
- You spend time wondering how things could have been different, what you could have done differently, or what could have been (dreams lost)
- You catch yourself scheming how to get them back (into your life or how to hurt them)
You’re wasting your precious time and energy looking outward! Real, permanent change happens within.
This is important to know – You attract people into your life to learn about love – love for yourself and love for another.
Love will bring up anything unlike itself.
Holding onto the past through talking about it or having unresolved feelings about it will keep the energy between you both alive. When negative energy is rampant and there is still a connection to another active there is no space for someone new and better for you to come into your life. Sometimes the past pain is very deep and you may not even be aware you’re still carrying it around.
Still not over your ex? How to Detox and detach:
There was much to be learned from the past and your experience. Before you jump into that next relationship or hop on the dating wagon, take some time out and understand what you were meant to learn.
- Learn from and close that chapter of your life.
- Stop blaming your ex.
- Take responsibility for your participation.
- Identify patterns and change them.
- Forgive them.
- Forgive yourself.
- Stop the negative talk.
- Transmute negative feelings.
- Give yourself time to heal.
- Get support for the deeper pain and healing you need.
Your special someone is waiting for you to do what it takes to align with them and their energy.