Is unresolved trauma the block and barrier?

If there is unresolved trauma operating in the background of your nervous system, all your ‘doing the damn thing’ won’t create the results you are working so hard to achieve. 

It doesn’t matter if it’s a relationship, money, more clients…when there is unresolved trauma, an inner survival program operates by default and automatically swats away what you’ve been calling into your life.

Because on some level, having it does not feel safe. 

  • You don’t want to be judged for you choices. 
  • You don’t want others to feel bad when they see how happy, healthy, free, in love you are. 
  • You don’t want to be abandoned for expressing thoughts and feelings different than others around you. 
  • You want to belong and feel safe being you.

If you’re struggling, you’re holding onto something within you that’s not true and you’re choosing behaviors to protect it. 

The struggle and solution are within you. 

When I weighed 100 pounds more than I do now, I would lose weight and gain it right back. 

Lose 20, gain 30. Lose 15, gain 20. It went on for years. Until…

Until I got to the core of what was happening in the background. 

There were aspects of myself preventing me from keeping the weight off. Split aspects I developed early on as a way of survival and safety.

A subconscious condition to keep extra weight on as a form creating space between myself and others.  

As an Empath I could feel what people were thinking. It wasn’t always kind or safe. 

  • Inner conflict was created – which cracked my self trust – when they’d be saying something different than what I was feeling. And no one believed me. 
  • I was intuitive, empathic, psychic and energy sensitive but, shut it down early on.  

Later, after I lost and kept off the weight, I realized I had kept the extra weight on to protect myself from unwanted sexual advancements or attention.  

I wanted to shield myself and from what was happening energetically. 

So, anytime I would do anything that might dismantle the protection of extra weight, the aspects would kick in and sabotage my efforts. 

Once I identified and healed what was underlying,

I kept the weight off and stepped off the rollercoaster of weight gain and loss. 

Are you feeling like you’re pushing a boulder up a hill to have more and experience more of life? 

Do you sense there might be inner aspects in your background, operating against your efforts? 

Take a look back… when did chaos, drama erupt in your life? 

Was it right when or just before you took a step toward something you want?


  • When you start to put yourself into the dating world, 
  • When you take steps to share your art, message, healing,
  • When you look into hiring the coach, mentor or healer,
  • When you start to put yourself into the dating world, 
  • When you start a new health routine,

…When you move toward creating a shift in your life that threatens an aspect of survival, it will create chaos, drama, self-sabotage… 

Experiences will occur to distract you (and keep the comfort zone cozy).
– car broke down, purse stolen, ex pops into your life, water heater breaks, fight with your partner…

You’ll hear all the reasons you can’t do the thing – no money, no time, it’s not the right time, it won’t work…

This is where your awareness is key and choice is your superpower.

Are you going to allow the distractions to deter you from where you were headed? 

The distractions and circumstances are choice points.  

How committed are you to yourself?

Quitting is a pattern. A survival mechanism. An inner aspect of you afraid it’s going to be harmed. 

It’s really just miswired and misfiring of your internal mechanisms.  An old operating system that once served you and is now working against you. 

You can identify the old system, extract the gifts from it (yes! there are gifts to these aspects of you), and rewire your operating system to be working with you, not against you. 

Could there be inner aspects of you operating to keep you safe?

And also away from what you want for yourself and life?


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